Sunday, 25 August 2013

Ten Things To Do or Not To Do After The #FirstDate #Romance

Welcome to Advice Bench!



This is a follow up on my last article - First Date - Will You Sleep With Him?

I have listed ten reasons you should keep your thighs firmly together as you roll along through the rocky ride of courtship! Focus on these ten things and by God's grace you will find true love.

1. No sex after your first date!


After your first date, bring up the conversation on your expectation not to hula hoop into bed before getting to know each other and deciding if you're going to spend the rest of your life together. That conversation helps sift the serious men from the flirty boys.

2. Engage in conversation that helps you find out more about your likes and dislikes.
Find out what you have in common and enjoy those activities together. If he enjoys watching football, join him to watch his favourite team play and see if you can stomach the frantic cheering or painful disappointment after the match. You like pole dancing? Take him along and make him try!

3. Go out together - a lot. See how you cope and behave in different environment - shops, cinema, park, restaurant. Find out how both of you handle pressure, stress, discomfort and most importantly, have fun!

4. Cook him a meal occasionally if he's nice and deserves it.

And make him cook you a meal. If he can't tell a plate from a pot, teach him! The lesson will come in handy when you eventually get married. Don't cook for him as a routine. He knows where the restaurant is, you're not a freebie restaurant.

5. Never wash his clothes!
That's a red flag in my book. If he wants all the paraphernalia of marriage, he needs to make the commitment.

6. If he needs you to clean his house, you're his maid!
What is wrong with his hands? Get him to clean his own house. Else, you will end up being his 'mama' or maid. If he physically can't clean because he's sick or physically challenged, throw this rule out of the door.

7. Don't move in with him!
I can't stress this enough. That's a No, No, in my book. Why should he gain everything and you lose everything? You lose your freedom and identity while hoping for him to pop the question. Smarten up!

8. Have babies for him? No way!
Yes, I am old fashioned. Why have babies for him before you say, I do? Oh! You're good enough to be the mother of his children but just not the woman to walk down the aisle or bear his precious name! Tell him to go where his likes belong, in the cave. The wedding doesn't have to be expensive or glamorous. He needs to make the commitment to you.

9. Talk about meeting his family.
Yes! This shows he's on a serious mission. As long as his other actions add up, you have nothing to worry about.

10. Ask questions
Finding out he has two kids or was previously married, after you get married is not very pleasant. It is not a great way to build trust either. So find out all you can about him.

Best wishes on your desire to find Mr. Right!

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You remain unforgettable,
  
Love 
Stella 


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Saturday, 17 August 2013

HUSBAND to RENT Excerpt


'You kept me waiting for hours,' was all Fara could muster, his throat muscles working furiously.

   
Taking in deep breath, he raised both hands up. 'Set me free. You're making a show of us in public,' he chided, as he fenced off more than four pairs of eyes belonging to the viewing diners.

   She left one arm lingering boldly at his waistline, as she cat walked to stand beside him. In her heels, she reached his neck. She's a tall woman, he admitted as her classy perfume lingered between them.

   Thankfully, as a rule, he preferred women in average pack size.

   But this woman is fearless and demanding.

   She surely isn't his type. Too flirty for his liking!

   He preferred his woman slightly tame and submissive. 'Where have you been?' he demanded, after de-tangling her supple arms from his sweltering waistline.

   A near sensual smile played around her full lips, almost causing havoc in his trousers, as a thin film of sweat broke out on his bunched chin.

   'I was held up at work. I had to sprint to be here.'

   He gave her attire a glance over. She looked smashing in a turquoise blue, one hand, body hugging short dress. Her legs, smooth as glass, stretched for miles.

   And, his chest beeped at least twice, as the thought of what his hands could do with her legs rushed to his head.

   What a distraction!

   Why did he have to pick this woman

'You look great,' he eventually complimented, when he remembered his good manners. 'Please sit down,' he invited, as he offered her the seat opposite him.

   'Thank you, Fara.' He tried in vain to recall her name, but gave up after thirty seconds. 'Are you saying you work till eleven sometimes?' he asked out of inquisitiveness, rather than interest.

   At least, that's what he wanted to believe.
   From her quizzical look, she didn't miss the hint of frustration underlining his question. 'Let me say, it's not unusual.'

   He noticed she avoided his questioning gaze.
   What kind of stupid answer is that? He wondered, glaring at her. He wouldn't be surprised if she’s having an affair at work! Why else would such a sexy female enjoy working late?

   She’s such a seductive woman.

   Bitter saliva trickled down his throat. 'Do you have spare dinner clothes in the office?' his question came out more like a sneer.

   A tolerant sigh escaped her lips.

   'I get invited to dinner now and again. I like to be ready.' One well-lined eyebrow flashed up.

   'Going on dinner dates from work is routine? What kind of job is that?' he couldn't help the disapproval showing up in his breath.

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Trapped in wealthy bondage

With her siblings legally married, parental and societal pressure mounting daily successful
banker and cynic, Otasowie Idah knew she was fast running out of excuses. How long was she going to pretend that being single at twenty-nine didn't carry a stigma?

Her inheritance is at stake! She's pushed to marrying the man her father chooses for her...until she stumbles across an escape route out of her bonds. And then, she plans the unthinkable! To rent a husband for a week!

Will Otasowie’s carefully woven scheme unravel their locked infatuation?

Will he be her husband for a week?

With his parents and friends reservations ringing in his head, Gambian born and bred hotelier, Fara Damba shoves his recently broken engagement behind him to trace his grandfather in a country he knows nothing about. His only purpose in Nigeria is to quickly find his grandfather, and return to his homeland.

A chance meeting with Otasowie at the Registry office is all it takes to kick start a chain of events that will test their values.

Is Fara willing to get help at any cost? And will he grant her absurd wish to be her husband for one week?







Saturday, 10 August 2013

#FirstDate - Will You Sleep With Him? 3 Reasons Not To!

Welcome to Advice Bench!




Yes, I am asking you if you will hop into bed with Mr Amazing on your very first date!

If your answer is a resounding YES or an unsure MAYBE, you need to have your head examined!

What is wrong with you? Okay, you may say why not because you've been jilted, suffered a divorce or have many other 'good' reasons. But that's not good enough.

If he asked you on a date, it suggests romance. You expect old fashioned courtship, excitement, spine tingling conversation but no fireworks!

After the wine is exhausted and the food gobbled up, you should expect a peck on the cheek or lips with your heart pounding for the next date to get to know him more!

That romance cycle is broken when you start to run before you crawl by jumping
into his bed after only a meal and fine wine. How cheap is cheap?

As far as a man is concerned, the chase is over before it even began! He will celebrate his conquest with a bottle of champagne in the midst of his friends. His mind will wonder what the thrill was with you. Promptly, he moves on in search of a more 'difficult' woman.

You wonder why he dismisses what he didn't have to fight for? Men are natural hunters. If the game is too easy, they capture, have a feast and go in search of a rare catch.

Three reasons not to hop into bed before he pops the question;

1. He thinks you can't be trusted.
He will see you as lacking the willpower to say, No! Simply put, you will say YES to sex with any man who takes you on a date. He isn't special. No man wants to marry a woman who he knows has no willpower to turn men down.

2. He thinks you are an easy win, cheap and readily available.
He reasons that it doesn't take too much to get in between your panties! There's no reason for him to hang around after sex on the first date. He has seen and experienced all you have to offer. He has sampled the goods, and they don't meet his taste.

3. He thinks you have no values - moral or religious.
You shake his confidence in women. His mind struggles to conjure up the number of men you have offered yourself to on a platter of wood. He wonders if he will ever find a woman to call his own, a woman who can kick a man in the teeth if need be, a woman with the ability to hold out in the face of temptation.

Wishing you success in your search for Mr. Right.





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Love,
Stella



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