Monday, 23 May 2011

What If Your Spouse Snores - Avoid Doing This...

And so what if your partner snores and you can't get decent sleep?

There are steps you must consider taking to cope. Avoid any decision that would create a gap in your relationship. Did anyone ever tell you life is a bed of roses? Yes. It's true. Life is a path filled with colourful, awesome, scented beauty lined with thorns!

1. Don't move out of your bedroom! No matter the circumstance, you've got to stick together, not fall apart!

2. Don't bitch, swear, moan, whine or generally make your life and your partner's miserable. Life is too short to be horrible to the one friend you should court for life. You aren't perfect either. Talk about your partner's snoring in light, jovial tones. It's not the end of the world.

3. Don't run off at the mouth to your family, friends and colleagues the first opportunity you get. Making your partner a laughing stock is not only childish and immature, it reduces your partner's value in the eyes of many. When they bad mouth him behind your back, don't complain!

4. Lastly, don't even consider jumping boat. Among your many weaknesses are you also a coward? How can a condition as curable as snoring make you dump the partner you swore to love? I say that's fair weather love! Grow up and consider the coping skills from my previous blog.

You're made of sterner stuff. Make your life as light hearted and peaceful as you possibly can, by God's grace.

Adopt a new attitude; LAUGH ABOUT EVERYTHING!

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What If Your Spouse Snores?

I'm determined to thrash the basic, knotty issues in marriage. Coping is what life is about. Moaning and losing precious sleep won't get you anywhere. Who told you life was a quick glide through?

I remember the day my husband told me, 'You snored a 'little' last night'. This comment was after eleven years of marriage! I'd never snored before then. Initially, I felt affronted. But when I saw the smile lurking around his teasing lips and his willingness to make light of it, I joined in the laughter. My response? I told him to nudge me if he hears me snore again. And, I nudge him too when he occasionally snores. Voila! Silly, one-off problem solved.

Dave married his princess, Isoken in a huge ceremony according to the Bini traditional law and custom. Afterwards, they entertained over eight hundred guests in an after church wedding reception.

On their wedding night, after they had done the expected, they went to sleep. Isoken woke up startled. She'd been rudely awakened by her husband's booming, snoring sound. On her fisrt night, she was kept awake. In the morning, she was grumpy, in a foul mood, stressed and red eyed.

The couple's first fracas was snoring related!

Here, I want to list a few practical tips. It's not the end of the world if your wife or husband has the habit of so many others. You can live with it and still enjoy a sound sleep. How?

A simple and quick nudge at the side to alter your partner's sleeping position can give you quick result. Sleeping on your back is a good position to snore. So, nudge them to sleep on their side. Try it, it works!

Another simple but effective solution is to wear an earplug! There are cute, colourful shapes available. Plug them in your ear and sleep through the snoring sound! One human weakness won't make you lose your will for survival!

Isoken should lovingly broach the subject. Laugh about it, tease her partner silly about the defeaning sound, and her loss of sleep.

Again, why not try an easy timing tactics? Go to bed a little earlier. When you're deeply asleep, hopefully, you won't be shocked into a sleepless state of anger?

I hear nasal strips works. Other cures includes nasal spray, anti snoring guard etc. Your doctor will advise you better. Together, you can can visit a doctor if all else fails. Give your partner moral support, next time, it may be your turn.

If your partner is overweight, start encouraging him or her to begin exercising and eating healthily. Your role includes helping your partner be the best they can be. Don't shy away from this hard stuff. Does your partner smoke? These (overweight and smoking) are contributory factors to snoring. What can you do? There are various support networks to help your partner step off the smoking ladder.

Go on and live happily ever after with your snoring or cured partner!

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Thursday, 12 May 2011

What If Your Wife Can't Cook?

This is a volatile topic especially to African men. Let's assume that after getting married, charming Chris finds out his beautiful and loving wife Bola, can't fry an egg without burning it. His options are to either put up with it or kick her out! Supporters of the latter view (to kick your wife out)will justify this decision by convincing you that the way to a man's heart is through his rounded stomachs.

This is a matter close to the heart of most men. A woman has to KNOW how to cook. This assumption now has broken legs. When I was growing up, I took it in turn to cook with my elder sister. Did I enjoy it at that time? No! But today, I'm doubly proud I can cook. I'm indebted to my mother's training regime for her girls, who have become wives.

Today in the UK, I hear girls openly declare on TV that they're cooking disasters! The saving grace however, is the pride and joy with which British/European men take to the kitchen like ducks to water. I take off my hat to the men in this society who have consistently emerged as great cooks. My all time favourite TV chef by far is the Italian maestro, Gino D'Acampo. Passion is big for me, and Gino ticks all the boxes when it comes to cooking with flair, passion, history, Italian expressions, sea load of jokes and smiles.

Oftentimes, I've watched how Gino has saved many women from their cooking disasters. So, if your wife can't cook, don't faint! She isn't the only one who can't. There are a number of things she can do to redeem herself. She can immediately take cookery lessons online, attend lessons or download recipes that she can try at home until she perfects it. I do it all the time with non-African dishes.

Chris will have to be patient, making do with sandwiches while his wife learns how to cook. He's got to encourage her, providing his taste buds for sensory sessions, while she's perfecting her skills.

She can also enlist a family member or friend to teach her how to cook your favourite dishes for starters! If you can cook as a husband, look no further. You can lovingly teach your wife how to whip up your preferred meals. After the cookery lessons, lay the table, eat together, and turn it into a romantic session for two!

Listen women! Even if your husband can cook, there's still no escape for you. You've got to learn how to cook. For how long do you intend to hire help or rely on takeaway? In Africa, if you can't cook, your reputation is soiled.

So, get cooking and have fun exploring recipes together!

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AUTHOR INTERVIEW - AN INVITATION!

Flirty & Feisty Romance Novel is extending an invitation to authors of all genres who want to be interviewed and featured on our website; http://www.flirtyandfeistyromancenovel.co.uk.

Self-published authors need publicity and opprotunities to promote their books. This is our small contribution to promoting fellow authors. The interview will be tweeted on our account, featured on our facebook page and on this blog for maximum exposure.

The interview questions have been compiled from the readers perspectives. It's a platform for readers to get to know you, both as an author and as an individual.

If you would like to be featured, mail Stella @ flirty.feisty@gmail.com

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Thursday, 5 May 2011

Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku is the Featured Author @ Romance Writers United

Yes, Flirty & Feisty Romance Author, Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku is the Featured Author of the Week @ Romance Writers United For a further read, click here; http://rwunited.freehostia.com/stellaobosaeromonsereajanaku.html