Wednesday, 27 April 2011

WHAT LOVE IS CONTINUES...

In my previous blog (see last post), I made it clear my personal definition of love included, putting another first, being unselfish and remaining faithful.

In this write-up, I can tell you authoritatively that;

4. Love is very patient.

You wonder why a woman can tolerate a husband that is an alcoholic, violent, unfaithful etc. for ten years for example.

It is because she dreams and hopes that one day, he'll change and become a better person.

5. That's because love bears all things (good and bad!) She magnifies her husband's good character (e.g. if he's generous, good with the kids, is helpful and shows great affection when he's sober) in her heart and holds on to that.

Only recently, I heard a wife who has being living with an alcoholic and violent husband for over five years say, 'He's not a bad man, I just want him to get help for his addiction and anger'. Her attitude is right and commendable in that love never fails.

In the last blog I asked the question, how can you cheat on a partner you love? I'm flipping the coin now as I ask, 'Would you forgive a cheating wife or husband?'

My personal answer is a resounding, 'Yes!' Why?

6. Love covers a multitude of sin. If you can rise above the pain, anger, humiliation and betrayal by God's grace, then, you can heal the life of your erring partner with your love and patience. Your relationship would emerge stronger and you would have learned to value one another and not take each other for granted.

7. Love isn't arrogant and does not behave rudely.
If a partner earns more, or is more popular and sought after, it's not a license to rub it in your less economically empowered wife/husband's face. Money and fame have wings and can take flight at any time.

What is lasting is the love between you and your partner. Of what use and joy is your celebrity status and wealth if your loved ones can't share in the fame and glory?

And for those who go checking their partners phone for text messages from other women or men, STOP!

8. Love isn't provoked and thinks no evil. Paranoia plays a large part in the breakdown of many marriages. If you want a lasting relationship, don't build your marriage on gossip and hearsay. It will surely fall apart.

And when something goes wrong in your friendship or relationship, PRAY and FORGIVE because love never fails...love is patient.

So, what are you waiting for? Go on loving your partner, children, family, friends and neighbours.

Happy Loving...from Flirty & Feisty Romance

To read more on what love means, read 1Corinthians chapter 13.



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Friday, 22 April 2011

WHAT IS LOVE?

Welcome to the new series of LOVE. I'm going to be looking at many components of LOVE.


We often ask ourselves or others, 'What is love?' I can't answer that question thoroughly myself. I'll try to anyway.

1. In a relationship or in life, Love means putting another first. That is what I think it should be.

But do I always put my husband or my children first? NO!

Does that mean I don't love them? Of course I LOVE THEM!

Let me try another definition.

2. Love is wanting what is best for my husband or children, family, friend or neighbour.

This implies a sacrificial way of life. Hmmm... Many times in my marriage, I have made decisions and acted in ways that show I want what is best for my family. But at other times, I have dragged my feet!

I remember when the idea of living abroad was first mentioned by my husband when we first got married over a decade ago. I told him point blank, 'I'm not relocating anywhere, if we don't own a house in Nigeria'.

As the years flew by, the pressure from him grew. Six years after we got married, we moved into our own home built by God's grace.

When my elder sister who lived in England asked if I wasn't going to visit her sometime, I told her that if she sent me a ticket, I'll cash it and use it to roof my house.

But after repeated armed robbery attacks on my family and the consequent psychological effect on my husband, I finally agreed to relocate to England. I guess it was God's time, because it all went so easily and smoothly.

It took me 8years to give in to what was best for my husband!!! How LOVING?

Okay, so I haven't quite convinced myself that I'm capable of LOVING all of the time.
Let me give it another try. Love means being faithful and true to your partner, children, family, friend etc.

3. If you love your husband or wife you wouldn't cheat on them. Or how can you love someone and run behind their backs and play dirty?

Oh no! I can't even think about cheating on my husband. I love him! How can I? I fear GOD! My God will be so cross with me.

The consequences would be horrendous. God is Faithful to me and to my family. How
can I be unfaithful to the husband God gave me? To make it super sweet, my husband treats me better than you would any precious jewel, thank God.

MY ADVICE

So my advice to you is when you think of cheating on your partner, pray for God to lead you out of temptation. Instead, dream up innovative ways to be a more exciting lover with your partner.

Add sparkle to your lovemaking, touch your partner in over a million ways and places, talk sexual, text sexual, talk, talk, talk...and you can be sure of reviving your love life!

Besides, why look out of your marriage to another when you haven't finished exploring the partner you have?

If you love your friends, you won't gossip or spread awful tales about them to others. It's that simple. I guess loving our children is the simplest and most straightforward of all. True! We always want what is best for them.

If loving is easy, how come sometimes it's so hard for me to give up what I want for what others want? Despite my best effort, I can still be quite selfish! It's still a prayer point. Sometimes, I tease my husband when he complains about my shortcomings saying, 'I need to give you some prayer point...otherwise, I'll be perfect'.

Keep your fingers on this page as I explore more on WHAT LOVE IS.


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Wednesday, 13 April 2011

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