Sunday, 31 October 2010

BEYOND the LADY

I've been neck deep editing my third, inspirational, romance novel; BEYOND the LADY...

I'm totally absorbed and carried away with the depth and strength of the characters I've created in Vanessa and Frederick. Their personalities are utterly arresting.
Vanessa is engaged in the age long career of prostitution. She's driven to it by events in her life. Fred on the other hand is a moralist, fired up with religion. Their coming together is unplanned, their staying together is contrived and the unfolding drama leaves you with a few streaks of tears and a kick in your chest...

BEYOND the LADY is a story inspired by the many years of global stigma tainting any young woman of Bini origin, who lived outside the walls of Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria.
The stigma is a direct consequence of the actions and exploits of young Bini ladies plying their trade as prostitutes in Italy.

I have found writing this story exciting, stimulating and thoroughly fulfilling.
BEYOND the LADY will be out before Christmas 2010 by God's Grace.

Saturday, 16 October 2010

Would You Lie To Your Partner?

Sometimes, you hear people say they will lie to protect their spouse or family. At other times, some people say lying is acceptable if it means not hurting your partner.

Under what circumstance would lying to your spouse be acceptable? However, before we jump into answering that question, let's start from the basics; would you lie to your spouse at all? I mean, would your first instinct be to lie when asked a question by your partner? For example, you decide to stop over for a few drinks on your way from work with a few of your colleagues. But you hadn't mentioned it to your partner previously because it was a spontaneous outing. So, you run a bit late. You get a call from your partner asking you where you are and who you are with. Would your first reaction be to avoid speaking specifically about where you've been and who you've been with? Or would you naturally give your spouse the graphic details of your outing? Now, if you know your partner wouldn't be happy about your 'little outing', you might be tempted not to state the truth as it is, right? You might want to hesitate or discolour the simple facts. Therefore, you would have to lie or hold back the truth because you've done the exact opposite of what your partner would accept.
My take on that is, you've got to know what your spouse likes and dislikes. Discuss it and let him/her know that even though they dislike your going along to drinks with your colleagues, you enjoy loosening up right after a stressful day. When this simple matter is established and is accepted beforehand, you wouldn't need to lie or gloss over the facts.

If you can't be trusted with little things like, 'where have you been?', 'Why isn't my food ready?' etc. How can you be trusted with bigger issues such as; 'why are you back home so late?'

Personally, I don't think lying, discolouring the truth, paint brushing the lie or distorting the truth is necessary or sustainable at all.

My opinion?
Stick to the truth like magnet to metal and you wouldn't have anything to worry about in the long run. It's hard to keep track of lies. LIES have short legs. Lies aren't acceptable under any circumstance to me. When you lie (no matter how small, or white or black) trust is totally eroded. When TRUST evaporates in a relationship, nothing is left. Not even love. Because your partner becomes paranoid, suspecting you and watching you like a hawk. Eventually, you feel choked and the pressure gets to you. It's unhealthy for a relationship and it just might crack it open! Surely, your lies will eventually find you out because NOTHING is hidden under the sun.

I would really like readers views on this knotty issue

Thursday, 7 October 2010

FLIRTY & FEISTY ROMANCE NOVEL LAUNCHES IT'S WEBSITE!!!

Flirty & Feisty Romance Novel launched it's website; www.flirtyandfeistyromancenovel.co.uk Please visit our site to keep up to date with new releases of our scintillating and stress-busting inspiring romance novels.
HOW TO KEEP YOUR MAN 4!

Rule no 7; PRAY
In every aspects of life, especially in marriage, don't underestimate the power or role of prayer. When you're in difficulties, PRAY. When your relationship is thriving, thank GOD. If it's lukewarm, ask for GOD's wisdom (ideas) on how to spice it up!

When you took the fantastic decision to stand before your family and friends, in front of a Priest to love each other forever, you also swore in front of GOD. Therefore, never leave GOD out of the relationship. Am talking from experience. God answers prayers. All it takes is for YOU to believe He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek HIM and that HE LOVES YOU!