Tuesday, 22 June 2010

Why would a woman cheat?

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Now that we have listed the number of ways to spice up and add glitter to your relationship (see previous blogs), we can roll on to the painful but common problem of infidelity in a relationship.

Imagine being married for  six years or more, and you have been so into each other.
You trust each other and don't expect that one of you will find fulfilment outside of the matrimonial home or bed.

And then one day, the scales fall from clogging your eyes and pronto! You discover your cherished and beloved one has been cheating...getting on with a colleague, a friend or even an enemy...for say a year?

Your reaction? Heartbreak, disappointment, hurt, self-assessment, anger, betrayal...and many more indescribable emotions. I know this is more rampant than we care to believe.

I will share three top reasons women have given for even thinking about cheating. 

1. LACK of attention (alias lack of sex)


One reason a woman considers cheating is if she suffers consistent lack of attention or affection from her spouse. If she gets the attention from outside her matrimonial home after her repeated plea falls on her husband's deaf ears, she's tempted to fall for the 'nice and attentive' guy.

2. CHEATING spouse

A 'genuine' reason a woman gives for cheating is, if she knows or catches her dear husband cheating on her. Humph! She thinks to herself, I have been really stupid. 

3. LACK of money

Another common reason women cheat is the pursuit of money. When she doesn't get money to take care of herself (especially if she's a full time house wife) from her husband, it is an indication he doesn't 'love' or 'care'.

CONSIDER THESE SCENARIOS

If Mr. Husband is a poor man, she tolerates for a while and after sometime, she may decide to take a walk to the greener grass on the other side. 

However, if he's a rich fella, she assumes he's selfish and needs to be dealt with... and she sleeps around with other men! 

And if Mr. Husband is a rich fella, business is his no. 1 priority. His friends take no.2 priority in his life and his numerous family members take no. 3 spot, mistresses take no 4 position, his wife may be no 5, if she is lucky. 

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?

Guess what Mrs. Wife does? After lamenting and crying genuine tears for years, she may explore other options. 

She doesn't look too far out of her marriage for comfort, because Mr. Business-minded husband may suspect. Though he's hardly around, such men usually keep the women under 'lock and key'. 

She seeks solace with her driver, or fitness instructor at the local gym or the personal staff around the house. 

While Mr. Busy Husband is in the farthest continent milking foreign currency, she's busy being milked by her personal staff.
 
Work on your marriage... That's another topic entirely.

QUESTION

Readers are welcome to make comments on why spouses would stretch their necks to the 'grass' on the other side. Is it because it looks greener? or because it's different? or it's just tempting? What is it?

Please leave comments on this controversial topic. It would be highly appreciated.

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Monday, 14 June 2010

Seven Ways to Sizzle Your Relationship...

We continue from the previous blog on ways to sizzle your relationship. To keep your affair growing and glowing:

4. Try raunchy, sassy, sumptuous texts to your spouse to trigger a wild response - just what you want!

5. Go to the movies together, cuddle up and watch your preferred film. Do you like thriller, drama, mystery? Then share ice cream and sneak your sticky fingers into intimate places... By the time you're on your way home, your mind can only think about getting in between the sheets!

6. Cook your partner's favourite dinner. Dim all lights and talk about sweet nothings, about what you love in your spouse. Appreciate every good quality (forget the bad)with that shuttered look that says, come on...

7. Think of a special gift for your partner. Complacency is the bane of any relationship. The minute you begin to take each other for granted, like forgetting to get a gift especially for important celebrations such as birthdays, wedding anniversaries etc. then, there's a catalogue of disappointment. But here, am talking about a gift out of the blues to shock your partner into attention...

Go and keep the flames of your relationship burning...

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Wednesday, 9 June 2010

More on how to add #glitter to your fading #relationship

Welcome back to Flirty & Feisty Romance Blog!

Oh yes! We're still on the vital topic of adding glitter and spice to your relationship.

This post is a continuation from the previous one.

4. Openly talking about any issue is key to any successful relationship. Bring niggling doubts, fears and questions to the open. Don't sweep any matter beneath the carpet and hope it will clear away or die a natural death.

When talking, try to be as sincere as you can. State it as calmly as possible. And keep an even tone of voice. When you ask a sensible question in an aggressive or irritating tone, your spouse shuts down. He stops listening to the query and focuses on the 'rude' manner in which you delivered your 'sensible' speech. Do you get my drift?

There are lots more to oiling the wheels of your relationship.

5. Why don't you go dancing with your spouse? When I say dancing, I mean hot, steamy, body touching, toes tingling dancing in a darkly lit, blues music blaring night club. It is a promise there's more to come! Before you go clubbing, remember to spot a sexy outfit, stilettos, light to heavy dose of perfume. You'll be crawling over each other by the time you hit the door.

6. Don't forget to PRAY!

Good luck and watch out for more reviving tips.

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Sunday, 6 June 2010

Any ideas on how to spice up any relationships?

Welcome to Flirty & Feisty Romance Blog!

This is my first post.

My vision is to post refreshing ideas on various romance topics to help improve relationships.

This blog is all about keeping the love fire aglow.

My passion has driven me to writing. I have just published my first contemporary romance fiction novel;
Loitering Shadows.

Loitering Shadows is hot, flirty, entertaining and sure to spruce up your relationships.

I'm very passionate about lighting up relationships. I've a few ideas I've tried out in my own marriage. And they have worked with sparkling results.

1. Wear sexy lingerie to bed has never failed to evoke those erotic sparks from my husband's eyes.

2. Get laid on the kitchen table top, in the living room, in the car, under the stars and in any other exciting place.

3. Buy a gift that he (she) can wear as a reminder; a necklace  with a photo pendant, a ring, a wristwatch etc.

I'll add more details to this idea in subsequent posts.

Thank you for visiting.
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